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What Does Proverbs 31:3 Mean?

Proverbs 31:3 in the King James Version says “Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings. — study this verse from Proverbs chapter 31 with commentary, cross-references, and original Hebrew word analysis.

Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.

Proverbs 31:3 · KJV


Context

1

The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.

2

What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?

3

Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.

4

It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:

5

Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted . prevert: Heb. alter of any: Heb. of all the sons of affliction


Commentary

KJV Study Commentary
Lemuel's mother warns: 'Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings.' The Hebrew 'chayil' (strength/substance) and 'derek' (ways/paths) refer to energy and life direction. Sexual immorality has destroyed many rulers—think of David, Solomon, and countless others. Reformed theology recognizes sexual sin's particular destructiveness to leaders. Those in authority face unique temptations and their falls have greater consequences. This counsel warns future kings against allowing sexual indulgence to undermine their calling.

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Historical & Cultural Context

Solomon, despite his wisdom, was destroyed by his many wives and concubines who turned his heart from God (1 Kings 11:1-4). His father David's adultery with Bathsheba brought lasting consequences (2 Samuel 12:10-14).

Reflection Questions

  1. Are you guarding against sexual temptation, especially if you hold positions of leadership?
  2. How have you seen sexual immorality destroy leaders and their effectiveness?
  3. What safeguards do you need to protect your integrity and calling?

Original Language Analysis

Hebrew · 7 words
אַל1 of 7
H408

not (the qualified negation, used as a deprecative); once (job 24:25) as a noun, nothing

תִּתֵּ֣ן2 of 7

Give

H5414

to give, used with greatest latitude of application (put, make, etc.)

לַנָּשִׁ֣ים3 of 7

unto women

H802

a woman

חֵילֶ֑ךָ4 of 7

not thy strength

H2428

probably a force, whether of men, means or other resources; an army, wealth, virtue, valor, strength

וּ֝דְרָכֶ֗יךָ5 of 7

nor thy ways

H1870

a road (as trodden); figuratively, a course of life or mode of action, often adverb

לַֽמְח֥וֹת6 of 7

to that which destroyeth

H4229

properly, to stroke or rub; by implication, to erase; also to smooth (as if with oil), i.e., grease or make fat

מְלָכִֽין׃7 of 7

kings

H4428

a king


Study Guide

Historical Context

This verse is found in the book of Proverbs. Understanding the historical and cultural background helps illuminate its meaning for the original audience and for us today.

Theological Significance

Proverbs 31:3 contributes to our understanding of God's character and His relationship with humanity. Consider how this verse connects to the broader themes of Scripture.

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